Grace of God ~
In the past few weeks and then again today I have heard this sentiment "Everything happens for a reason - according to Gods Plan" ~ now this would generally be ok for and by me if said person simply SHUT UP after that generic sentiment instead of saying something to completely dispute what they themselves just said.
Case in point. A friend of mine suffered a miscarriage today; and apparently according to someone this was "God's Plan and thank God you lost it so early because it might have had complications".
Apparently, God does not dole out 'complications' and instead kills or causes the baby not to be. Which is odd,considering Bryant had 'complications' and I consider him a Gift of God and a perfection of Spirit. I do NOT consider him better off dead.
Around 8 weeks into the pregnancy with Bryant I had a lot of bleeding which prompted an ER visit The Nurse mentioned to me that it was probably a miscarriage which was "Nature's Way" of dealing with the defective.
Of course, now I take offense that anyone can call any of God's work defective. But the interesting thing is I never told God I would only accept a 'perfect' baby ~ meaning of course a non-disabled or 'complicated' Gift. The issue I have with this whole "GOD blaming thing" is just that. How can anyone who says "everything happens for a reason" have the Gall to question and then add God's thoughts? It's offensive.
Basically this person was telling my friend, your baby is better off dead than being disabled or 'complicated'.
Hmmmm.... odd. But that is how a lot of people see disabled persons. They turn away and feel bad and silently bless themselves for not having that. Yes we are thankful for health but we should be thankful for life and for those who teach us how to live gracefully with life. That's what Bryant taught and I am certain Bryant was not a mistake by God. The real mistake is that people will continue to marginalize anyone who is different and consider it better off that they are dead rather than born ... and I must say it is people like that who are in for a big surprise from God.
Get over yourself I say. Who says that just because we can't see your disabilities that they are in fact not worse than someone else's? And who gets to judge that? We are all here and functioning by the Grace of God. All of us. Those who choose to distinguish who has a "Gift" and who do not are walking a thin line.
Bryant taught me and countless others about love and life. Those who choose to see a disabled person instead of the Spirit Guide Bryant was and is are missing the entire Life Lesson. Those who do see it or have glimpsed it in another, you then know what I am talking about.
Rant over.
In the past few weeks and then again today I have heard this sentiment "Everything happens for a reason - according to Gods Plan" ~ now this would generally be ok for and by me if said person simply SHUT UP after that generic sentiment instead of saying something to completely dispute what they themselves just said.
Case in point. A friend of mine suffered a miscarriage today; and apparently according to someone this was "God's Plan and thank God you lost it so early because it might have had complications".
Apparently, God does not dole out 'complications' and instead kills or causes the baby not to be. Which is odd,considering Bryant had 'complications' and I consider him a Gift of God and a perfection of Spirit. I do NOT consider him better off dead.
Around 8 weeks into the pregnancy with Bryant I had a lot of bleeding which prompted an ER visit The Nurse mentioned to me that it was probably a miscarriage which was "Nature's Way" of dealing with the defective.
Of course, now I take offense that anyone can call any of God's work defective. But the interesting thing is I never told God I would only accept a 'perfect' baby ~ meaning of course a non-disabled or 'complicated' Gift. The issue I have with this whole "GOD blaming thing" is just that. How can anyone who says "everything happens for a reason" have the Gall to question and then add God's thoughts? It's offensive.
Basically this person was telling my friend, your baby is better off dead than being disabled or 'complicated'.
Hmmmm.... odd. But that is how a lot of people see disabled persons. They turn away and feel bad and silently bless themselves for not having that. Yes we are thankful for health but we should be thankful for life and for those who teach us how to live gracefully with life. That's what Bryant taught and I am certain Bryant was not a mistake by God. The real mistake is that people will continue to marginalize anyone who is different and consider it better off that they are dead rather than born ... and I must say it is people like that who are in for a big surprise from God.
Get over yourself I say. Who says that just because we can't see your disabilities that they are in fact not worse than someone else's? And who gets to judge that? We are all here and functioning by the Grace of God. All of us. Those who choose to distinguish who has a "Gift" and who do not are walking a thin line.
Bryant taught me and countless others about love and life. Those who choose to see a disabled person instead of the Spirit Guide Bryant was and is are missing the entire Life Lesson. Those who do see it or have glimpsed it in another, you then know what I am talking about.
Rant over.
2 comments:
Well said, mother of Bryant - agreed by Grandmother of Bryant - all life is precious and I am certain that Jehovah God preserved Bryant for us - so that he was not carelessly disregarded by God as not being worthy to be born - he was born and he was loved and he loved in return and taught those who loved him many fine and good lessons from God - that we are not to say the kind of things that we are hearing from people who really do not know better and feel that they are all knowing and have the right to throw their insensitive feelings on to people who are knowing and have been given a great gift of knowledge sensitivity and love that God and those who are not what they call "perfect" have actually taught us. Grammy
Totally agree. Colin is just 16 months old and has already taught me so much. I found myself mumbling the other day while watching such s previous perfect boy play "what did I do RIGHT to get blessed with Colin." Then and there I realized that I reached a milestone of my own. I was no longer thinking about what I did wrong to have such a child with so many challenges and issues. I realized that I was no longer questioning why God "did this to me"....I was finally seeing Colin with the eyes God has been working to change since the day he was born. I now see perfection, I now see pure love and I now see complete and utter contentment. And using that nurse's explanation..."Nature" tried to miscarry Colin as my blood draws weren't doubling like they should and I kept being talked to about how i might not have a "viable" pregnancy but I prayed and cried so hard begging God to save the child growing in me. I had no idea what God had in store for me. And I am SO thankful. As Colin sleeps beside me now and I hear him breathing I thank God...and I enjoy the time I have with him. I don't know how long I will have him but I do know that I will miss him every day of my life that he isn't with me, like you miss Bryant. I will be praying for your friend who miscarried...I have been there myself too. And also for you as March approaches quickly.
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